J. Matt Barber
Children In The "Gay Marriage" Crosshairs
© 2008 J. Matt Barber
You've probably heard the relativist line
that goes something like this: "Gay
Well, don't buy it for a minute.
With its recent 4-3 opinion which
arrogantly presumed to redefine the millennia-old definition of legitimate
marriage the California Supreme Court daftly divined that the framers
of the California Constitution intended all along, I guess that
Patrick Henry really had a constitutional right to "
Abomination, you say? Isn't that a bit
Nope. God used it. And I'll give just one
example of many as to why He did. Keep in mind, though: If California
voters fail to pass a constitutional amendment in November to undo this
extremist act of judicial social engineering, we can expect thousands more
examples just like it.
Virginia resident Lisa Miller, mother of
6-year-old Isabella Miller, was involved in homosexuality for a short
time. Thankfully, she found freedom from the destructive "gay"
lifestyle as so many others have done through a
For the past five years or so, Lisa and
Isabella have been trying to live their lives in peace at home in
Virginia. But unfortunately, they've been unable to do so, as Lisa's dark
past has come back to haunt them. They've been the target of a vicious
legal attack by militant homosexual activists that places Vermont's civil
union laws ("gay marriage" by another name) directly at odds
with the Federal
Outrageously, the Vermont Supreme Court
ruled in March that Lisa must share custody of her own daughter with Janet
Jenkins, a woman who was, for a brief time, Lisa's lesbian "civil
partner." Jenkins is entirely unrelated to Isabella and, for the most
part, is a total stranger to the little girl. Although Jenkins is neither
a biological parent nor an adoptive parent, Vermont's highest court
determined that because of a brief "civil union" from a
weekend jaunt to Vermont back in 2000 Jenkins, who hadn't seen
Isabella since she was little over a year old, must be granted
"parental" rights and visitation.
Little Isabella who is both terrified
by this stranger and understandably confused by her bizarre lifestyle
has suffered tremendous emotional trauma as a result. There are even
concerns about her physical safety.
But it gets much worse. Because
Christianity is biblically incompatible with unrepentant homosexuality,
and since Lisa teaches Isabella God's express design for
But it gets worse yet. On June 18, in an
act that can only be described as pure evil, Jenkins' attorneys filed a
"Motion for Transfer of Both Sole Legal and Physical [Custody]"
of Isabella to Janet Jenkins. Yes, you read that right. This unrelated,
near perfect stranger and her single-minded homosexual activist attorneys
are trying to permanently rip this horrified child from her mother's
loving embrace as a sacrifice to the gods of postmodern homo-fascism.
Unfortunately, with the history of this Vermont court, the motion may well
Still, there is a silver lining to this
tragic story. Attorneys with Liberty Counsel, the Christian civil
liberties law firm representing Lisa and Isabella Miller, have filed an
action in Virginia asking the commonwealth to respect its Marriage
Affirmation Act, the federal DOMA and Virginia's constitution, which
stipulates that Virginia "shall not create or recognize"
"civil unions" or "same-sex marriages" from other
states, nor can it recognize rulings which stem from such
"unions" (such as Vermont's custody ruling).
This pits the laws of Vermont directly
against the laws of Virginia. If Virginia does the right thing and tells
Vermont to keep its "civil unions" to itself, the U.S. Supreme
Court will ultimately have to resolve the conflict.
But on a larger scale, Lisa and
Isabella's tragic story demonstrates that it's all too often children who
are ultimately victimized by state-recognized immorality. It's the
children who suffer when adults selfishly depart from God's intended
design for human sexuality and marriage as reaffirmed by Christ's
teachings in the New Testament and enter into counterfeit homosexual
"civil unions" or "same-sex marriages."
So-called same-sex "parenting"
willfully deprives a child of his or her mother or father and is
fundamentally immoral for that reason (among others). We know conclusively
that it's best for children to be raised with both mom and dad. It's not
always possible, but even with single parenting, there's always the chance
that the other half an adoptive mother or father will enter the
We need only rely on common sense, but
the preponderance of research has proven that a mother and a father each
possess unique qualities central in helping to formulate who a child
While standing before the Courts of
Justice Committee of the Virginia Senate in 2005, Robert Knight, former
Director of the Culture and
2001, a team of pro-homosexual researchers from the University of Southern
California did a meta-analysis of "gay parenting" studies and
published a refreshingly honest article in American Sociological Review,
"(How) Does the Sexual Orientation of Parents Matter?"
concluded that, yes, studies show that girls are more likely to "be
sexually adventurous and less chaste," including being more likely to
try lesbianism, and that boys are more likely to have "fluid"
conceptions of gender roles, and that researchers should stop trying to
cover this up in the hopes of pursuing a pro-homosexual agenda. The
researchers said, in effect: Some of the kids are more likely to turn
out gay or bisexual, but so what?
Ultimately, though, it all boils down to
simple biology. It's impossible for a "gay" pair to have a child
without utilizing the mechanics of natural procreation. They have no
choice but to bring an opposite-sex third party into the picture. A child
like Isabella can't really have two mommies (or three mommies;
Jenkins is reportedly in a new lesbian relationship). She can have only
one mommy and a daddy (who in this case was an anonymous sperm donor).
Jenkins and others like her are laboring
under an unfortunate delusion. They're not mom, mommy, mother or mum.
They're not even "step-mom." The closest thing they are to
family is, well, kind of like mommy's fun
But none of this matters to today's
postmodern moral relativists. They have a specific agenda in mind: to
completely redefine reality-based marriage and family into oblivion
matter who gets hurt in the process.
And Lisa and little Isabella are just two
of the latest victims of that agenda. Unfortunately, if this perversion of
justice in California is left to stand, and if Virginia chooses not to
rebuff Vermont's outrageous ruling in the Lisa Miller case, there will be
many, many more.
Barber is Director of Cultural Affairs with Liberty Counsel and Associate Dean
with Liberty University School of Law.
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